Go from victim to victorious to achieve success
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Sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Losing is never easy, but how you deal with it can leave a lasting impression.
Often times people can be sore losers or victims to get attention from others. Making people feel bad for you can only last so long. If you continue to play the victim long after you have lost, people will start to grow tired of you and not want to work with you or hear from you.
Following the Positive Intelligence method by Shirzad Chamine, you can move to a positive mindset by activating the 5 Sage powers to help you move away from your victim saboteur.
Empathize-you can empathize with yourself, but don’t stay here too long. When you stay here too long, you become the victim. Try empathizing with those you believe are against you. You may find that once you do that, you can start working together with them to achieve success.
Explore - look into why you lost. Does there appear to be evidence that you weren’t treated fairly? If so, you should look into further. Ask the right questions to find out what happened. If it’s determined that you were treated fairly, you should look at moving forward.
Innovate - Look for ways that you can do something different or learn how to make the best of the position you find yourself in. You may be in a situation at work where you’re not sure whether you are in the right job. By innovating, you can find new ways to make it a role that will make you happy.
Navigate- look for the way forward. One door may have closed for you, but that shouldn’t stop you from seeking a new opportunity that can be better for you.
Activate-take the right steps so that you can look like a winner even when you lose. Work with your opponent to come together on common goals. This helps everyone succeed. Be the bigger person and don’t let your ego get the best of you. Be humble and accept the outcome.
Staying in the victim mindset can make you bitter. I have been here and it’s not a good place to be. You don’t want to be around anyone because you feel sorry for yourself. People don’t want to be around you either because they will grow tired of your bitterness.
When you accept the outcome and move forward, it helps you transition to a more positive mindset which helps you recover faster from your victim mentality. Recovering faster from a negative situation will only help you be more successful.
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Here’s to your success!
Best,
Rene